My worst nightmare happened

Why I've been a bit quiet lately

A few weeks ago, a post I shared on Facebook about why I left vet practice, got some negative attention.

A LOT of positive attention too, but the negativity took me off guard.

And it’s making my own perfectionism come to the surface.

It’s making me worry about whatever I write next.

I wrote a second post to share in the vet Facebook group regarding “is perfectionism a good thing?”. I thought I could start a conversation and hear both sides of the argument. I know I’ll learn a lot from it.

But I don’t feel mentally strong enough to invite in more criticism of my coaching style right now.

And maybe I shouldn’t tell you that. That I “don’t feel mentally strong enough”.

Maybe I should tell you instead how “I wouldn’t have had the courage to share that original post or respond calmly to the comments without mindfulness”.

Because that is true.

And I know, when I look at things objectively, that that post also helped a lot of people.

So maybe I should focus on that. On how releasing perfectionism means I can easily see there is ONLY ONE angry emoji and 211 positives one (tell me honestly though, if it was you, would you be hung up on the one angry one?).

But hey, being honest feels good 🙏

Looking at things objectively, is a key part of being mindful.

And so honestly, it HURTS when people criticise your work.

But with mindfulness, I’m getting through that too.

I’m back here writing, honestly with a big smile on my face.

There is still more I want to say, but for now, I’m genuinely proud that I’ve not let a few negative comments hold me back.

And I will, at some point, post that comment in the vet group inviting more conversation. But a wonderful post by Dr Alex Lovell reminded me I don’t have to do everything at once.

If you want to release some of your perfectionism

So you too can

• Stop avoiding things that feel scary

• Cope with criticism when it comes

• Actually reach the high standards you’ve set for yourself

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That’s it for today folks.

THANK YOU for being here.

You’ve no idea how much I love writing to you all and I feel SO grateful I get to do this 🥰

I hope it’s given you something to think about regarding releasing perfectionism as a way to RAISE your standards.

And that it’s ok if it’s still hard sometimes.

Lucy x